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Learn to Say No

by: David Wood

How many times have you agreed to do something that you actually didn?t want to do? For someone at work? Your friends? Even your spouse? All you had to do was say no, but the word didn?t come out. So you end up doing it?and later resent it.

A coaching client said to me she was agreeing to things she didn?t want to do, but for some reason, she felt obliged to do them. Instead of taking enjoyment in the task, she would later feel angry with herself and resentful towards the person she had said ?yes? to.

So then she went on to list further reasons why she wanted to say no. I stopped her by saying, ?You are even justifying yourself to me!? We feel we have to justify ourselves and give extremely good reasons for saying no. Even when the reason is simply: ?I don?t want to.?

Check-in With Yourself

I asked my client what was one thing she could do to work on this. She suggested she start checking in with herself before saying yes or no. You can ask yourself, ?Is this right for me?? Support yourself in doing what feels right and well with you. And if it?s not something for you, try expressing that no.

Have Fun With It!

Saying no doesn?t have to be serious or angry. My client also wanted to lighten up, so I recommended she try stirring it up a little, to have fun with it. You can try out different responses like, ?Nope, never as long as I live? or ?Baby sit your kids - are you crazy?? What are some other great responses you can try to make 'saying no' more fun?

Make a List

I suggested my client list the areas and people in her life where she had the most trouble saying no. I told her it was up to her what to do with that list. Where do you have trouble saying no? Is it perhaps time to have some honest conversations with people?

Try this: ?This is what I have been doing. I have been saying yes, when I have wanted to say no. I am starting to feel resentful and I don?t want to feel that way. I don't want to offend you, and I need to start listening to myself.? At the very least, they will have a heads-up that things might be a little different from now one. And - it helps you make an internal shift.

Taking the Plunge

So what is the worst that could happen by saying no? You might lose some people in your life who are used to you doing what they want. Living an authentic life can seem tough. Sometimes there will be unwelcome consequences.

And I say: Bring on the consequences! In the end, it?s worth it.

Enjoy,

David Wood

David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: "10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets" and his audio ebook: "Getting Your First 50 Clients".

"David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school"

About The Author

David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download ?50 Power Questions? and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm.

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Be Informed When You Purchase A Computer

Be Informed When You Purchase A Computer

by: Sintilia Miecevole

When you go online or look at ads for electronics stores, you will probably be able to find a computer that will be just right for you. There are many types and styles available on the market. You can find a computer that will take up a whole room in your house, while you can also find a computer that will fit into the palm of your hand! At a business, you will probably find a mainframe computer. In your workplace or at home you will normally find a desktop computer. In the airport, the person sitting next to you could be working on a laptop computer or handheld computer. So, when you find yourself looking for a computer for your own personal use, you know you will have a lot to choose from.

When looking for a home computer, nowadays called a personal computer, you will find it is made up of several parts. There will be a box sitting on your desk, black, gray or beige in color....

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Are You Fed Up?

by: Neale Donald Walsch

There is no better place to be than Fed Up. That's the place of new beginnings. That's the place of letting go. That's the place of "giving up." You are giving up what's been going on so far, and getting ready to create a new reality.

I know with all the talk of war and terror levels and how shall we respond, what is the answer, it's not so difficult to feel like giving up. If you feel like giving up, I'd like you to consider giving up one more thing; I'd like you to give up your idea that you can't find an answer.

I'm here to tell you that you can.

God will never let you down, and if you have not received any response from God before it is not because He hasn't answered, it is because, like me, you have been unable to hear the response. But trust me. God is responding. Right now. And every day and moment of your life.

I have often heard from people interpreting CwG Book 1 to say that...

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How To Be Public Speakers? Check Out Public Speaking Courses

by: James Masterson

Public speaking is an important course though most might think they do not need one. The skills you acquire in public speaking are certainly helpful in your everyday work routine, interacting with people and practically in your social life.

In studying public speaking, you would learn to say what you mean, develop self-confidence, learn more about yourself and how to relate with others and of course enjoy the freedom of speech.

A public speaking course would help you organize your thoughts so that your audience may fully understand your message the way you want them to understand it. You will learn, too, how to speak clearly but interestingly before an audience using verbal and non-verbal expressions. You acquire effective speaking and delivery techniques. Aside from these skills, you also develop sensitivity to the needs of others and the delivery of messages...

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Do Your Home Improvement Right With A Good Attic Ladder

Do Your Home Improvement Right With A Good Attic Ladder

by: Adam Hook

This weekend you need to head up into your attic to get some work done. You need to pull some wire for the final touches on your sound system. You know you need to get it done. It's the last part of your dream home theater system that needs work. Most of your speaker setup is on the money, but the weak point of your system is the center channel speaker and your two rear channel speakers. Well, my friend, this is the weekend to get those issues sorted out. Home theater bliss is on its way.

You know how to pull wire – how to get the measurements and all that. And the setup of the system is not a problem. That's what 15-year-olds are for. But the actually pulling the wire in from your receiver to the actual speakers could pose a problem. Not that you don't have the skills to do it. You're completely confident with that – you're a man's man. But you need...

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7 Public Speaking Survival Tips

7 Public Speaking Survival Tips

by: Mark Tyrrell

I used to be terrified of public speaking - now it?s natural and fun.

Dry mouth, fast heart, sweaty palms, blank mind - yeah I?ve been there! It?s easy to fear public speaking. But I was never just content with overcoming fear. I wanted to be a great speaker. What I needed was a way of calming down and applying simple techniques and strategies to talk like a pro.

When I?d learned to relax (more of that later) I learned and applied the following four steps.

1 Reassure your audience - they need to know you know your stuff and you are human! 2 Hook them by being interesting and relevant. Tell them why what you are saying is relevant to them. 3 Inspire them by giving them information and ways of seeing that are new and applicable.
4 Leave them on a high by telling a story them encapsulates your central message . How do you become confident enough to apply the four steps?

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Spain?s Other Languages

by: Mike McDougall

Despite Castilian (Or Espa?ol) being the main language of Spain there are also a number of other languages spoken throughout Spain ? many are now recognised officially by the government and regulated by governing bodies to ensure that they remain a part of Spain?s history and diversity.

Euskara Batua (unified Basque)

Definitely the most interesting language in Spain, Euskara is widely spoken throughout the Basque region of Northern Spain. The majority of Basque speakers live in Spain with a smaller percentage living over the border in Pyrenean France. The Basques are a fiercely proud people and have an extremely developed sense of regional identity. Despite having a large amount of political and cultural autonomy, there is still a strong movement for complete independence from Spain and the terrorist group ETA have been terrorising the nation for 30 years in the hunt for complete self rule for the...

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Do Your Home Improvement Right With A Good Attic Ladder

Do Your Home Improvement Right With A Good Attic Ladder

by: Adam Hook

Do Your Home Improvement Right With A Good Attic Ladder

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